A psychologist I once knew, gave me a book one day, she was very excited for me to read it and couldn't wait for me to learn about the Law of Attraction, that book was called The Secret. Now, some of you probably won't like this statement, but the Law of Attraction is bullshit. But it works? I believe in the intelligence of groups of people, if a lot of people follow something then it means that at least to them that something has some truth or logic to it. So what about the Law of Attraction? First of all, what is it? Well, it's the belief that if you think about something and wish it hard enough and for long enough, it will come. This is true for both good stuff and bad stuff. But without putting in work yourself, how can things happen more frequently than random? If what you envision often come true that means that it works right?
Well, no. And this is what I have the most problem with regarding this law. What happens is what you envision, ALWAYS, and what you envision happens, ALWAYS. See, my mother died when I was a young teenager, you're telling me I made that happen? Frankly, I don't like that school of thinking. I also believe that expecting to be able to think very hard about something and make it a reality stumps growth, and/or advancement, and creates laziness. Be very clear that just thinking about something very very hard is only gonna make you want it more. That's it. Ah but wait...
There is a term for that. Envisioning. If you're at all familiar with the most common practices for success you'll know that envisioning is a crucial one, so what's the deal? Here's a recap of why visualizing works. Visualizing something very literally makes it real... to the brain. In fact, our brain's neural network and visual cortex activate very similarly to when we actually see something when we dream it, whether awake or not. When someone practices the Law of Attraction they are also practicing a key habit in success formation. Actually, let me correct that, they don't just follow this practice, they LIVE by it.
In fact, not only that, but they also have extremely clear goals. To be able to envision what you want you must first know what you want, and followers of The Secret spend an admirable amount of time defining exactly that. I put a great emphasis on goals and their importance, hence why the first three articles I made were a series about goals. And I personally also spend a lot of time defining them and making sure I knew what I wanted. This activity is essential because it allows you to create a clear map of which direction to take yourself in. Coupled with envisioning, you are mentally walking down that path, which, as we just saw, makes it real to the brain, and coupled with a strong expectation that you will receive something for it, you have created a strong tool.
This is how this tool works: you are now sure of what to look out for in order to advance down the path you've set for yourself, and you are wholeheartedly expecting to receive exactly what you need to keep going. All you have to do is keep an eye out for it. So when an opportunity presents itself you grasp it. You grasp it without thinking twice. Amazing! Opportunities come to us incredibly frequently, but most of us have the habit of overthinking them and scaring ourselves away from them, but think about what would happen if you jumped in at every opportunity that comes your way? If you've ever seen "Yes Man" with Jim Carrey, it's the exact same concept. And, it is also a concept congruent with habits for success. In the film, Jim Carrey's character completely turned his life around by simply saying yes to opportunities.
Then there's this. The ones that see results from the Law of Attraction are inadvertently putting in work. I have no studies to back this up, but I know this, a large part of achieving your goals is comprised of small steps. I also know that when you want something hard enough, work doesn't seem like work. Therefore, even though The Secret tells you that you don't have to work for what you want to attract, it's almost certain that a lot of people do. Many of the things that you will do in your journey towards your goals are made up of following down the path which will lead you there. Here's what I mean by this: imagine you want to start a business but have no money, one day you hear someone mentioning an entrepreneurs group where people share ideas and knowledge of the industry. You might see it as an opportunity, or a sign, or the Law working. Nevertheless, you jump in and attend the group weekly. That is work. You hear about a contest with a chance to win a grant for your startup and you compete in it. That is work.
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I completely disagree with The Secret's Law of Attraction, but even though it tells you not to work towards your goals, there's no stopping humans from working towards their goals is they are desired enough, and there is no denying that a lot of points coincide with habits for success. If the creators of this philosophy omitted the part about not doing anything for yourself because it will all "fall into place", I likely would have been a big proponent of this idea. To make certain things like envisioning, clear goals, and seeking opportunities an almost cult-like way of life, I think is fantastic. What are your thoughts on this idea? Do you agree, or disagree with any points?
Hi, I'm Matthew, my mission is to spread knowledge about motivation, productivity, and enabling people to achieve the best that they can be! I have a vast background in psychology and a passion for self-improvement. I literally can't remember a time when I didn't have a psychology book in my hands. On top of that, I've traveled around the world from a very young age, and seen many different courses of life, forming friendships with highly successful people, as well as people who are willing to do anything to make ends meet. My own life took me down a roller coaster of highs and lows, and I'm forever grateful that I've been able to overcome everything it threw at me. Now I want to take the opportunity to give back, and help others learn tools and methods for becoming who they were born to be!