When I was about 10 years old I came up with a statement that has lead my life ever since.
This statement is "If there's a problem there's a solution, and if there's no solution there's no problem."
If there's a problem there's a solution
For most problems, this is the case! Most issues we have to deal with have a solution. The way I see this is that there is something negotiating for something you have, and you are negotiating to keep as much as possible.
By thinking about it this way three options arise: 1. You can lose everything, 2. You can stay the way you are, and 3. You will find a compromise between the two.
Options 2 and 3 are what you should be aiming for. Firstly, option 2 is obviously the greatest option and therefore all sorts of efforts should be made to achieve it. Option 3 is a matter of minimizing damage.
In either case, the course of action is to utilize all the resources you have at hand. Don't feel ashamed to go asking for help or advice, or even stupid questions. In fact, no question is too silly to ask because the stronger your foundation of knowledge and certainty the better and quicker you can resolve your problems.
If there's no solution there's no problem
Sounds like a stupid thing to think but let me explain. When we are faced with a problem to which there's no solution or compromise we start to panic. And as I mentioned in my previous article, panic leads nowhere, and actually proves more harmful in times like these.
If a problem you have has no solution then you must minimize the damages and move forward as strong as you can. This is achieved by careful and intelligent planning. Even though the damages done by the issue at hand cannot be avoided, the way you progress is completely in your control.
Take this example that is happening to me right now. I am a student and therefore have very limited income. I made a budget for this semester and follow it properly. However, I entered into a car trade deal which ended up going sour, ending up with a $1500 bill and me filing a lawsuit against the other party. The legal fees and the hefty bill would have left me crippled financially, especially since I am currently moving houses and need to buy furniture in the coming months too. However, I did not let myself panic, and instead, I started to remodel my budget with legal fees, and this bill included assuming that I would recuperate none of it.
I don't believe the how is important within the scope of this article but the main takeaway is that I could have been panicking and stressing about this situation which may have led me to further splurge to satisfy what wants I have as a form of coping. Like overeating but with shopping. However, all that happened is that my budget is reduced and I will have to spend more time furnishing my apartment. Although I hope to recuperate my losses if my lawsuit is successful, if it isn't, the damage done isn't remedied, it has however been implemented in my plans moving forward.
In this manner, it is almost like there is no problem because the stress I endured is minimal, the consequences accounted for, my path going forward is still sure as it was before. With the right planning, even if there's no solution, there's no problem.
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If there's a problem there's a solution, and if there's no solution there's no problem. It all comes down to planning ahead, knowing what resources we have, and keeping a positive mindset to get us through tough situations. Keeping calm in the face of adversity is crucial to finding our next steps and a happy life regardless of what problems may arise from one day to another.
Hi, I'm Matthew, my mission is to spread knowledge about motivation, productivity, and enabling people to achieve the best that they can be! I have a vast background in psychology and a passion for self-improvement. I literally can't remember a time when I didn't have a psychology book in my hands. On top of that, I've traveled around the world from a very young age, and seen many different courses of life, forming friendships with highly successful people, as well as people who are willing to do anything to make ends meet. My own life took me down a roller coaster of highs and lows, and I'm forever grateful that I've been able to overcome everything it threw at me. Now I want to take the opportunity to give back, and help others learn tools and methods for becoming who they were born to be!