When You Feel Lost

People say even a broken clock is right twice a day, but what if this broken clock hasn't given up ticking?

What if this broken clock still ticks but only ever the wrong time, never catching up to the hour and the hour never catching up to it?

Well, there is always a time zone for this clock, for any clock in fact. The question is how does it get there? How do we get there?

To answer this we must first ask ourselves where we are now. In this precise moment, what's good about us and what's bad about us. By our own accord, yes you can ask other people, but this is an answer we must find ourselves. And we must also be careful not to be too nice to ourselves, nor too critical. Those can be flaws too.

The next thing we have to ask ourselves is, okay, where am I going? What's my destination? And we must answer this in a specific way, broad terms aren't good enough here. The thing is that we hardly ever do that. If someone came and asked if you figured out where your destination is, if you could have what's best for you, what is that? Most people don't know. Because we don't ask. We don't look for the answer well enough, because it's hard.

And I put myself in these shoes too because even though I did take the time to figure this out it took years before I decided to do so. Years that could have been spent bettering myself. Years lost.

The reason why it takes so long for so many of us is because there's a problem with figuring out where we want to end up. The problem is that we must make our failures clear to us, we have to understand where it is that we went wrong. Not where things went out of control. Where we let go instead of trying a little harder. And it sucks to admit that. We sometimes want to be so perfect that we hide our imperfections from our own selves.

It might be easier this way because then we don't know where we screwed up. We're free to blame it on something beyond us. But if we make our criteria for success precise, only then we can know what to fix and when. And then we can fix it.

However, sometimes it's still unclear where the origins of our problems lie, there's so many factors that make us who we are, and so we stop. Actually, we don't even begin in the first place, because what's the point in fixing one tiny variable instead of the whole issue? But no. That's where this method of thinking falls apart. Anything that we find wrong we should fix. Fix 100 little things and you'll realize, the way I did, how much our lives change. Then when the little things are out of the way we can start looking towards the bigger challenges. Before we know it we will find ourselves on track for a destination we might not even have realized we wanted to or needed to reach.

There isn't anything too small to fix. We tend to overlook the mundane things we do, bad eating habits, bad sleep schedules, etc. We think "Well, they're just mundane things, they don't matter." Well, 50% of the things you do are mundane things. Those are the fundamentals of who you are, they are the things that you do without even realizing that give you your quirks and features. I'd say these are the most important things we should focus on fixing.

For example, cleaning a messy bedroom. We think "Well, it's just a room, I have so many other things to figure out". But how could we tackle big life problems when we can't even look after ourselves? Maybe that's a start. When we are lost we can start finding our way home by taking the first step, the bedroom. And then the second, the living room. And so on, until we reach the big obstacles. When you are lost, start where you can start.


Hi, I'm Matthew, my mission is to spread knowledge about motivation, productivity, and enabling people to achieve the best that they can be! I have a vast background in psychology and a passion for self-improvement. I literally can't remember a time when I didn't have a psychology book in my hands. On top of that, I've traveled around the world from a very young age, and seen many different courses of life, forming friendships with highly successful people, as well as people who are willing to do anything to make ends meet. My own life took me down a roller coaster of highs and lows, and I'm forever grateful that I've been able to overcome everything it threw at me. Now I want to take the opportunity to give back, and help others learn tools and methods for becoming who they were born to be!


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